Remember your dreams and fight for them. You must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure. Never forget your Personal Legend. Never forget your dreams. Your silent heart will guide you. Be silent now. It is the possibility of a dream that makes life interesting. You can choose between being a victim of destiny or an adventurer who is fighting for something important.
Paulo Coelho, his works include The Alchemis, The Zahir and The Deveil and Miss Prym.
Daniel Goleman in his book, Emotional Intelligence, explains that self-awareness is: “Aware of their moods as they are having them, these people understandably have some sophistication about their emotional lives. Their clarity about emotions may undergird other personality traits: they are autonomous and sure of their own boundaries, are in good psychological health and tend to have a positive outlook on life. When they get into a bad mood, they don’t ruminate and obsess about it, and are able to get out of it sooner. In short, their mindfulness helps them manage their emotions.”
Would you like to understand the key to managing your emotions? Do you wonder what mindfulness is and how it relates to trauma histories?
Mindfulness and self-awareness are foundational constructs to build an understanding of the impact of trauma. Trauma’s echoes may become lodged within our bodies, creating a somatic response. For example, an adult who experienced significant abuse while young may describe jaw tightness or discomfort. This could be due to the fact they lost their voice, their ability to communicate their pain when they were young so the tension becomes imbedded in their jaw, creating additional stress. Mindfulness causes us to slow down, become aware, gain insight, and process pain. Through this process, an understanding of the reverberating effects of early trauma can be understood and embraced. Accepting and integrating trauma allow pathways for healing to occur.
Picture putting your fist into a dog’s mouth (not a very brilliant move), in pain you try to pull your hand out of the mouth and the dog’s teeth would shred your hand. For the dog to release your hand, you must push your hand in toward the dog. This would cause the dog’s mouth to open, thus resulting in the release of your hand. This example illustrates how we need to go into our trauma rather than try to pull back and avoid the pain. Only when we are willing to go into are we able to move through it. This seems to be the opposite of what traditional wisdom teaches; however, the mind-body connection is undeniable. Only when we mindfully make the connection are we able to move to a place of acceptance and rejuvenation that integrates our trauma histories into our lives so that we are not constricted or hampered from the ability to be present in our current relationships.
A holistic approach can provide healing pathways for those with trauma histories. A variety of methods can be effective in the healing process. Examples include EMDR, Sensory Processing exercises, Yoga (see article below), Meditation, Prayer, Somatic Release Massage, Art, Music, and other self-soothing activities.
If you found this information helpful and would like to learn more about working with those with trauma histories or working through your own trauma history, contact us for a phone consultation, skype appointment, or additional resources. We will partner with you to build your knowledge and awareness of trauma while equipping you to process, understand, and integrate your experiences into a holistic framework.